A Spouse of Noble Character
Daily Reading: Genesis 31, Psalm 31, Mark 3, Proverbs 31
A wife of noble character, who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.
Proverbs 31:10-11
I have an amazing wife.
I appreciate her so much, and am constantly thankful God put Naomi in my life. I love raising a family with her and having her as my best friend.
There are also times where it is easy to take for granted what a huge impact having an incredible wife makes on every other area of my life. Having a spouse of noble character is not just nice because we all want to have a solid marriage, it makes everything else in life better as well.
She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.
Who we choose to marry is one of the most important choices a person makes in their lives. However, we largely think about this major decision being important primarily through the lens of spending so much time with that person the rest of our life. You want to get that right!
It goes so far beyond that.
Marrying the right person will have a significant impact on your physical health, mental health, career, and so many other areas of life.
And yet, for such a critical decision, it doesn’t seem to get talked about nearly enough. For the most part, in our society, people end up talking mostly about whether a potential couple have common interests, if they have chemistry, etc.
As a parent, this is something I want to be cognizant of as my children get older. I don’t want to be the stereotypical helicopter parent in a romantic comedy who is fixated on my child finding a husband or wife. I want them to walk their own path when it comes to timing, and if they even feel called to marry in the first place.
However, I also don’t want to avoid talking about the importance of the decision for fear of it turning into an awkward conversation. Young adults get so much advice on what college to attend, the careers they are considering pursuing, different cities they may want to move to, and the list goes on.
Dating and marriage, however, often get relegated to small talk.
“Dating anyone recently?”
“How is it going with…”
“Are you two getting serious?”
These conversations rarely go to the place of:
“Have you thought through what you are looking for in someone you would want to spend the rest of your life with?”
“Is the person you are with someone who brings out the absolute best in you”?
“Can you see them being a spouse of noble character?”
That last sentence may sound a bit funny if phrased that way, but the sentiment is a powerful one.
I wonder how much lower the divorce rate would be in our world if more Christians asked deeper questions when it came to relationships, whether in conversation with friends, members of our small group, people we are mentoring, or our own children.
This one decision can impact everything else that comes after it in a profound way.
She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.
It is worth doing everything possible to get it right!
Daily Reflection & Dialogue
Depending on where you are in life, how does this message speak to you?
